Managing Your Move to or in Oklahoma City: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the mature counterpart of middle school—everyone is super zealous about the idea, but it's only the folks with sensible expectations who end up having a smooth move. Sure, it is a new home, a new beginning, and the opportunity of a awesome new life--but once that last empty truck heads down the road and you are standing there in the middle of your boxes, you've still got to do the actual work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is the key to beginning that new life on a positive note--and that equates to not only accepting the fact that a new home won't wondrously melt off the fifteen pounds you want to lose, but that moving is emotionally draining even in ideal circumstances and you and your family should allot the time and space to accept that. One of the odd things about a local move--new house, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be harder on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new house hundreds of miles away eliminates the never-ending requests to go see their friends in the old neighborhood, and it could be less difficult to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the topic. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in Oklahoma City--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you don't purge must be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I'll get rid of old stuff and only hang on to what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you believe you do. No matter if you take care of your own packing or hire professional movers, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to move with you. Purge Purging is one of those odd terms you do not hear a lot, at least in a good connotation. However, letting go of the old baggage is one of the wisest ways so that you can empower your new home to meet your expectations of wonderful. There are all kinds of directions and suggestions to help you figure out the best approaches to go through your old things, from practical--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a little wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its least complicated level, purging is basically sorting through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and making three piles: hang on to, get rid of, donate. Or you may have four piles if you have got a lot of next-to-new items that you do not need anymore, and consign those things. The hardest thing about purging is retaining the detachment you need to be merciless about tossing things. If you saved all those pre-school paintings, how can you toss them and be a good parent? Here is how—appoint a friend to help you pick through items and talk you through why you're keeping things that are really best to be gotten rid of. Having someone else ask you out loud why you want to save the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in relative importance and you will have a pain-free time growing the get-rid-of pile if you have got someone to back-up your decisions. If your partner is the one with the pack rat habits, here is a suggestion for assisting an unwilling participant part with their treasures. Think small, and start with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and out-of-ink pens to one time only and progressively get to bigger possessions, like collections (for instance, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch us next time as we discuss managing your move subjects: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.